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Monday, May 5, 2008

Benefit Alert: Housing Works 4th Annual Design on a Dime

Alert Alert!
Calling All Shopping Celebutantes:

Our fave thrift store (seriously scored Siegerson Morrison flats for $10!!!) Housing Works is throwing a fabulous benefit and shopping experience this week. Make your way to the Metropolitan Pavilion this Thursday, May 8 to join Maggie Gyllenhaal and the folks at Martha Stewart's Real Simple for an evening of preview shopping, cocktails, hors d'oeuvres, a silent auction and live entertainment.

You can purchase tickets

If you can't make the benefit, you can still enjoy two days of shopping at the flagship store.

The best part about this whole event is that all proceeds from Design on a Dime benefit Housing Works, the nation's largest grassroots AIDS service organization. since 1990, Housing Works has provided life-saving services to more than 20,000 homeless men, women, and children living with HIV and AIDS in New York City. Design on a Dime has raised over $1 million in support of Housing works programs.



Thursday, May 1, 2008

RLS Editor Heather Cannady featured at

Check out this exciting article featuring RLS Editor Heather Cannady and the Jackie Robinson Foundation.

Heather wants you all to know that JRF is probably one of the most fabulous non-profit organizations around today. They make sure young people from diverse backgrounds have the tools and support they need to get started and excel in their career paths.

Check it out.

Love always,

Your Friends at Real Life Socialites

Benefit Alert: Federal Bar Council

One of your fearless leaders is making an apperance at the Waldorf=Astoria tonight for the Annual Law Day Dinner. She's got her camera just in case any celebs or other fabulous people make an appearance.

What's most fab about tonite is that this RLS got her dinner gown, a Nicole Miller, for a fifth of the retail price at Loehmann's (the go to spot for all things real and fabulous)! How great is that.?!?!?

Promise to get pics up soon.



Rest for the Weary (Wallet)

Hey Social Ones,

With recession looming large, the fear that you may be on the verge of losing your fabulosity may be overwhelming. Come on! Have we taught you nothing? You are fabulous on the inside. And what is inside your wallet is generally of no concern (that is unless you are dead broke and aren't paying rent or child support).

I thought these articles in The New York Times shed a little light on how to maintain a sense of style while weathering a major budget crunch. Plus, they are pretty quirky and downright hilarious at time. Hope they give you inspiration to live richly regardless of what you have.

On luxury looks (and lips) in times of want:

On uberfashioncheapo Steve & Barry's:

Funny and Interesting, enough said:


The Real Life Socialites

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

LeBron & Vogue: What's Up The Cover?

So what do you all think? This Real Life Socialite is a happy subscriber to Vogue (honestly for the fashion, the writing hmmm not so much) and enjoys most of its angles. But the mag has never been known to be er-fashion forward when it comes to race and social justice issues, except maybe perhaps feminist issues. Anna Wintour has only ever featured four Black celebrities on the cover ever. The total number of Blacks (models, celebs, RLS's lol) is not much greater. I mean, I can name more than four Black supermodels right now: Iman, Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell, Kimora Lee Simmons, Alex Wek, Liya Kebede, Veronica Webb, Selita Ebanks, Chanel Iman, and Beverly Johnson. Those are not all, and that is right off the top of my head.

Anyway, the LeBron James/Giselle cover shot by famed photographer, Annie Leibowitz, is stirring up

People are citing Vogue for using a picture that evokes images of King Kong, thus, alluding to familiar slave-time imagery of black men as violent, uncontrollable beasts that prey on white women.

Others have criticized LeBron for participating in such a photo.

Still others don't see a problem with the cover saying, "can't a cover just be a cover?"

What do you think? Is this going to affect your opinion of Vogue? And remember, an informed RLS is a sexy RLS!
And I know this has nothing to do with anything...but why do the mags love Kate Bosworth? She has a mediocre stylist and not much more going for her. I'm just saying. Give someone else a cover now and then.

Friday, March 14, 2008

Poppin Bottles? Be Healthy!

The New York Times recently ran this kinda scary article about alcohol abuse and eating disorders. Trust me, most of us Real Life Socialites like to imbibe now and again, but let's try to keep it healthy. Undereating, overeating, throwing up. None of that is cute. And it becomes less attractive when you use alcohol to facilitate those behaviors.

If you have a problem, get help. It's cool. There is nothing more attractive than an RLS that can stay in control of his or her body and keep it strong and healthy.

Here are some helpful sites to check out if you need help:


xoxo & healthy living!


Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Saavy Sample Sale! Starts THURSDAY!

For New Yorkers in the know, Saavy is having a blowout designer duds sale this week. Didn't know? Here's the scoop:

2/7: The Preview Event. Scoop up L.A.M.B., Mint, and 3.1 Phillip Lim (love love love) gear (amongst others) at generous discounts while shaking your hips to good music and entertaining your taste buds with tasty cocktails. The first 100 customers to make a purchase will get a goodie bag too! 5-9pm.

2/8-9: The sale continues albeit without the fun party and free alcohol. This time you can shop from 11am-7pm!

Where: 145 W. 18th St. bwtn 6th & 7th., 212-388-0339

Get your shop on and and keep some money in your wallet because remember, you are a REAL LIFE Socialite!

Hugs & Love,

Heather & Bari

Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Close that Judith Leiber Purse!

Hey Lovers!

Sorry we have been gone so long. The holidays (and its parties and weight gain) caught up with the Real Life Socialites. But we are back with a vengeance and we promise to bring you cool news, insightful stories, and great gossip in the months to come.

A pretty funny article was featured in today's New York Times. With recession looming large, everybody is downsizing their spending. But what do the fabulous do? Check it out

And make sure you save some cents this year. You will thank us for it later. Coming soon: Creative ways to make/save money and still live the fabulous life.

XOXO & Yours Always

Heather & Bari

Sunday, December 9, 2007

The State of Black Women? Hmmmmmm...

In light of NBC's Nightly News week long series of the state of Black women two weeks ago, it got this Real Life Socialite thinking. According to their broadcast, Black women will die alone, most likely of breast cancer or diabetes complications due to faulty health care, having never been married by age 35, though likely a single mother, possibly with some adopted children, clutching our advanced degrees that Black men don't have because we're outpacing them in educational attainment and career advancement (which also accounts for part of why we aren't married).

Let's kick some stats-
40% of Black women have never married
27% is the National average for all women
16% for White women

Black women are largest group to adopt children (47%)

70% of Black children born to single women

This raises several questions. Do Black folks even WANT to get married? And if so, will you settle. Let's tackle these one at a time, shall we?

As a married person, I'm going to step out on a limb and say that most women, particularly around my age (27), would love to get married and raise a family with that lucky upwardly mobile, educated Black man of their dreams. I think the question is more nuanced than that- and it is...will you marry for love, regardless of certain social/career aspirations, or are you okay with marrying to form a power couple (on some Bill and Hillary type arrangement)? The Barack/Michelle Obama arrangement, love AND power couple status, seems few and far between to many. I've asked this question of a lot of my friends lately (for background's sake, I'd say 98.5% of the Real Life Socialites friends are upwardly mobile, post-graduate and/or professional degreed individuals, but for this topic, we are dealing with those of the chocolate persuasion only), and most women are fine with marrying for love, while men are looking for someone that fits their career and social aspirations, with love being secondary or a 'bonus,' if you will. Now, looking at the stats listed above, one assumes that a certain level of "lowered expectations" has to go on in order to snag a mate. That, my dears, is called "settling." One party is going to end up doing it to some extent, if you believe those stats. Either the man will sacrifice love for someone who compliments his social and career aspirations, or the woman will lower the educational/career achievements of a man in order to find love.

I think settling is negative, period. It's not just a connotation, it's a state of being- just making do with what you can drum up. That isn't okay to me. I haven't done that in any other facet of life, so why when I pick a mate? Would you settle? Better yet...would you want a mate that 'settled' for you, and how would you feel if you found out that your mate did just that?

Now, I can hear some women crying foul already. I hear a chorus in the back of my head that sounds like..."Bari, this sounds to me like you're blaming the victim. As though, that 40% stat is somehow something black women are responsible for and/or have control over, as opposed to a complex combination of systemic cultural, societal, education, financial, and communal factors that leave black women with the short end of the stick. And plastering a smile on ones face, making oneself available to attend every black mingling lounge/spot/bar/happy hour/reception event, and eating turkey burgers with no bun and a side of fruit is not the solution to this societal problem."

No, but it can help improve the odds. I think some of these things could help some folks I know, at the very least, score just a date. One date. However, there are two tracks to this discussion, and I think we need to parse them out. One is the macro environment, that being the statistical disadvantage. The other being the micro environment, an individual person's relationships or prospects. I'm a solutions-oriented person, and to be honest, I'm an only child so when I look for the solution, I'm going to immediately look for the one that will directly benefit me and mine. So, that said, when I look at this discussion, I do so in the context of the micro, how can my many female friends, whom I love dearly, improve their odds?

But generally.. think about it. If you work a little less, that affords time to go to the gym. If you work out more and eat the turkey burger without the bun, you are improving your health and probably your appearance by default. It never hurts to be more attractive. A smile is welcoming- makes people want to approach you. If you put yourself in the places and spaces to meet single Buppies, having done the first three things, more men may step to a woman who is confident, healthy and looks approachable. Just an idea...hell, if you do just these basic things you may at least score a date. Just one date. And that could lead to your "happily ever after," or at least your marriage based on love, power, or just because.

This blog was written partially tongue-in-cheek, but definitely to spark conversation. Remember to keep the faith, ladies!

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Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Newsflash: Beauty Alert

Thanks to our friends at BellaSugar (a great beauty bloggette in a great blog family), the Real Life Socialites are savvy to an awesome event going on at Bliss Spas across the country. The beauty spots are serving up champagne and brownies and dishing out great bargains on their product lines. Unfortunately, the event is tonight (in about fifteen minutes, from 6pm-8pm)...we know, we know...short notice. But to our fans in different times zones than Eastern Standard, you have tons of time and to those Beauty Bettys and Barneys on the East Coast, get out of work and get your butt there. You know you need to do some Christmas shopping.

For a list of Bliss Locations click HERE.


Heather & Bari